I Am More Than Just Sex
I have recently realized that if someone were to read my Medium profile and portfolio, they might notice that my writing centers around sex by a wide margin. I’d go as far as saying that 80%+ of my articles focus on the topic. Much of my other items deal with parenting.
This makes sense to me. I found Medium because of my desire to interact with other human beings around the topics of sex, love, and passion. It helps fill a role that is missing from my “normal” everyday life. Therefore, I tend to box myself in a bit here.
I do have other passions and interests outside of sex, surprisingly enough. I don’t often discuss many of them here because I can do so in my life outside of my pseudonym. I happen to be fairly passionate about politics and fall somewhere far left of center.
However, I have other areas where I talk about politics. This place is my respite from that. And lord, do I need a respite from politics. I have grown weary of the ugliness that comes with any mention of a topic. Don’t get me wrong, I still donate to causes I believe in, both with time, money, and energy, but I need a safe space from it all. Medium is that space. Besides, I don’t think it would be well received by my family and friends if I posted about how much my wife enjoyed me going down on her last night.
So, I’m going to use this space to introduce you to a bit more about who I am and what my interests are outside of sex.
I Am a Voracious Reader-
I think of all of my interests, this one has been with me the longest. As a child, I was an advanced and prolific reader. In 30+ years, that love has never wavered or abandoned me. This is actually an interest of mine that I have written about here, most recently with this article:
How Reading Books Has Impacted My Relationships
From family to friends, it touches them all
If you want to get me excited and my eyes aglow, tell me about your favorite or most recently read books. My favorite genres are fantasy, science fiction, and horror.
I Am in Love with Music-
I have always felt music has spoken to my soul. When I listen, I absorb the lyrics. I analyze what someone must have been feeling when they wrote the lyrics. I wonder why they decided to convey a particular message with a specific tempo. And once I consume it, roll the shape of it around my head and tongue, I put it back out into the world. I sing my heart out. I let the tingly, shuddering feeling wash over me as I join the artist in feeling the music’s emotions.
Playing my guitar and singing along with it is quite possibly the closest experience I have to sex outside of the actual act itself. When I play my guitar, I’m using my mouth, hands, and mind to recreate a sound, a mood, a feeling. I piece it all together and send the energy outside of myself and into the atmosphere around me, where it swirls and reverberates. In those moments where I find the proverbial zone, I feel lightheaded, tingly. Sometimes, it takes me a minute to come back to reality.
I’m a Fisherman-
This is something that I think has suffered the most since becoming a parent, specifically a stay-at-home parent. There isn’t a lot of extra or spare time to take a large chunk of the day and disappear. My wife’s job isn’t just a 9–5 office job. She fields calls from clients from 8 am through 9 pm, 7 days a week. There is no clocking out.
But when I can get out on the river, it is like going to church. I imagine, anyway. I don’t actually attend church. I put on my waders and get out in the water. Even if I don’t catch anything, it is always such a wonderful experience. I love getting in the middle of the water and watching how nature unfolds around me.
I Love Games-
No, not the mental, emotional games of love and dating. I fucking hate those. I’m talking about card games, dice games, video games (to a lesser extent), and more recently and obsessively, TTRPG, also known as tabletop role-playing games. D&D specifically, but I’m not averse to trying and learning others.
I grew up learning and loving all of the typical childhood board games; Shoots and Ladders, Candyland, Trouble, Sorry, Monopoly. Then came card games; Rummy, Euchre, and Cribbage. Later, poker followed.
Then, in my mid 30’s, I discovered and taught myself how to play Dungeons and Dragons. That is my current obsession. I play in 2–3 games a week. It used to be in person, but now over Zoom. I prefer in-person but still love doing it online. I dress up as my characters. I get to put on a different persona and explore scenarios not ever encountered in everyday life. It fits in perfectly with my love of attending Renaissance Festivals.
Nature is My Home-
Put me in nature amongst the green and dabbled sunlight of a seldom traversed trail and something about me releases and relaxes. There is a sense of calm and freedom. I could walk amongst it all day long. The sound of the birds, the scent of the plants, the beauty of all of it gets me feeling emotional and vulnerable. It literally makes me horny.
I Am a Gardener-
A rather prolific one, if I may say so myself. I grow hundreds of pounds of food each year in my large garden space that is ever-expanding. Tomatoes, cabbage, carrots, onions, peas, beans, zucchini, squash, pumpkins, potatoes, garlic, strawberries, and raspberries are just some of the fruits and vegetables I grow every year. This doesn’t even touch on the dozens of different flower varieties I have planted and spread around my property. I genuinely love getting dirty out in my garden. And I love providing for my family in my own way.
I Am a Cook-
And a damn good one at that. I cook about 80–90% of my family’s meals. I don’t do taco Tuesday, either. That’s not to say we don’t eat tacos. But I don’t like eating the same thing over and over again. I’m always trying new recipes. Life is short, so I’m going to try and make and experience as many different foods and recipes as I can during my time here. This is much to the chagrin of my children’s basic palates.
I Am an Introvert with Anxiety-
Real unique, I know. I’ve always been an introvert. When I am one on one or have a small group of people I know, I can talk more than most. But put me in larger groups filled with people I don’t know, and I shut down. More specifically, I tend towards panic attacks. These were particularly severe when I was in my late 20’s and early 30’s. I have mostly gotten them under control by recognizing my triggers and either avoiding them or removing myself when I feel the signs and symptoms coming on.
I could go on about a dozen other topics, but these are some of the important things about me that I enjoy or feel help define the overall picture of who I am.
I’m always willing to talk and discuss with anyone who has questions or wants to know more.
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